You have no idea how relieved I am.
It’s not a great job. It’s not a green job. It’s not something he wants to stick with for more than a few months, ideally. But it’s income. Possibly good income since a part of the pay is based on commission.
But it’s income and health coverage. A chance to get off the COBRA coverage.
Investigating the new coverage, which starts the first day of the first month after the 60 day mark, it looks like I will have to change obstetricians for this baby. At first I was kind of disappointed, but now I’m not… so long as the copays and whatnot aren’t bad.
You see, the research I did on it included taking a better look at the hospital I was going to deliver at. I had been thinking my OB’s insistence on another C-section might have been her personal preference.
But in my research I found out how to look at the hospitals. The one nearest me just doesn’t routinely offer VBAC. But the one I would have to deliver at under the new plan DOES!!
I’ll put up with the extra driving for that chance. I really didn’t want to go the C-section route again. If it’s necessary that’s one thing. But due to a stinking hospital policy? NO!!
The minus is that there are only two OBs in my area to choose from, and only one actually specializes in it. The other is in internal medicine.
Nervous as I am about all this, I’m glad to have the chance to really try for VBAC. And of course I’m grateful for any kind of work that my husband can do. He’s keeping up the job hunt to try to find a career position, but in the meantime, we just need to get by.
And I’m trying not to think about how little time he’ll probably be able to take when baby gets here. Good thing there’s lots of family around.
Have you thought about seeing a midwife instead of an OB? I don’t know if a previous c section would make a difference if you could see one or not. I had a midwife for my first and now am seeing them again for my second. They treat pregnancy like a normal natural occurrence(which it is) when an OB looks for things to go wrong. I will never see an OB because I just don’t trust them.:)I think they perform C sections in this country too readily plus I don’t need someone all worried over the fact that I am 36 even though my pregnancy is healthy and normal.:) Good luck with the new doctor and I hope you can have that VBAC!
I wish you the best of luck. You seemed to have done your research on the doctors, hospitals and c-section. I have heard of women having natural birth after a c-section but I don’t know their circumstances. Keep us posted.
Diana, I’ve thought of that, but the insurance won’t cover it. A midwife was what I wanted for my first pregnancy, but it’s rough when you’d have to pay out of pocket for it. Can’t even have a certified nurse midwife on my insurance!
A good OB knows a VBAC can be done, and the risks to look out for. So far as I can tell, it’s the standard risk of less than 1% for uterine rupture, which would be a medical emergency. I don’t really expect to have the low amniotic fluid problem again. I just have to look at my grandmother, who lost a baby to that back when there was no way for them to detect that problem. She had 3 more healthy babies after that. But I have no problem with being monitored a bit more for that just in case. I still shudder to think how close I came to losing my son.
Good luck! My cousin’s wife had a C-section with her first one, was told by OB she would not have any more naturally. She had delivered a healthy baby absolutely naturally not so long ago.